Shame

As a kid I was raised to be proud ,proud to be an Indian,the culture of India ,the Vedas so on and so forth. I have been reminded many times that there is no other culture that respects the dignity of woman.There is no other culture where the  women is worshiped as God.Always I have heard elders criticizing the western culture .Where has my India the one which I am proud of  gone?

The crime against women in India is on a all time high.I still remember a debate which I had with some elders just after the Nirbhaya case .To my shell shock I realized that those clan of elders where criticizing Nirbhaya to have been out at that time of night along with a male friend .They even boasted in saying that my daughter would not have done that.All I could do was vehemently oppose because yes I had to travel once all alone at that time of night back from my office and all I could say was I was just lucky.Have you ever thought that it could have been your daughter who could have been travelling with her brother /father /husband and how can you be so sure that she is safe.

I have heard a lot of choking statements like ;it's the women who invites rape , it's the mobile phone given to women that invites rape ,it's the jeans that invites rape and how long in India will we be supporting such erratic thoughts and statements ."Was it the jeans or the mobile phone ??what was the fault of that 6 year old ,a small kid ,just a kid who was traumatized by nobody other than her school teachers and to the hell shock of my lives the school says they do not even own the responsibility of safety of the kids."Daily the news paper is flooded with news about crime against women /children.Well high time we should amend our laws and include capital punishment for such heinous crimes.

To all those who criticize women , are the cultured men in India such perverts who cannot even control themselves .Let me not blame all the men , just because of a clan of them .

Tell me ,truly genuinely and this question goes to all the women "Have you faced any abuse while travelling in public transport -trains/buses/metros?""Have you faced any issue of eves teasing in your entire life?"And if your answer is yes ,please educate the men around you of the problems you face .Your silence is no solution ,you should make them realize what they could do to others can indeed come back to their own people and it's only that scare which may instill sense in people. Mothers please raise your sons right ,stop blaming some one else's daughter .Your raise your boy right and he will not do the wrong.

I still remember meeting a Turkish lady on my way the NZ ,I was going on a business trip and she was in for a pleasure trip .She was telling me about all her pleasure trips around the world and I was surprised India was never there in her list.Inquisitive I asked her why she never visited India,it has so many places to visit ,vivid rich culture and she just said "I do not feel it safe to travel to India , heard so much in news ,it's unsafe for women " .That day  for the first time, I instead of being proud to be an Indian ; felt ashamed .

In pursuit of Happiness

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There is a thin line of difference in being human and an animal ;precisely speaking being animal and a social animal .I am a firm believer that a human being is no more than an animal who has learned to tame himself.

When does a human qualify to be a human ?Have you ever thought ,just by going to school ,or raising a family , doing the puja's , going to a place of worship do you qualify to be a human?It's only when you do the little things in life without any selfish motto you be human.Every one loves their own children ,but can you love someone else's child?Every one loves their own parents but can you love someone else's parents ?When you can do that you indeed be a human .Else you qualify nothing more than being an animal.

Have you ever noticed a small kid ,his eyes glitters when happy and is teary when sad .Why on earth does every person get attracted to kids ,it's their innocence.Why does that child suddenly changes ,what makes him change when he grows old?Is it the society to be blamed or the upbringing to be blamed .No it's just you as an individual to be blamed .

I have always felt that it's the good who feel angry ,not the bad.The one who is wronged cries not the one who is the wrong bearer.I always felt that God's a little mean ,he favors the bad ,makes them feel good ,makes them grow .But why ?I have tried to find an answer to this and yes I have a conclusion ,the more wrong you do ,God will make you merrier indeed ,just so that you fall is the hardest.Never ever forget their is no escape from the divine blow .If you have wronged some one ,Karma will bring the wrong back to you.

People just expect you to do all your duties and responsibilities towards them ,which is right ,but what about their duties towards you.Relationships are mutual ,never one sided .It's better to delete any relationship that is one sided .

Do the little things in life that make others happy ,something which according to you would bring no return .Just give a call ,talk nice ,give a warm nice hug,wish some one ,pass on a sweet smile ,do the small favors ,small gestures impart happiness.And of course never get disappointed when someone does not be nice to you ,it's their problem and not yours .You choose to be happy or sad ,you choose to be happy ,happiness is your primary responsibility toward yourself and the only responsibility that God has bestowed upon you .